I'm Falling Even More In Love with You

The words I can remember of this song are these,

I'm falling even more in love with you, letting go of all I've held on to. I'm standing here until you make me move, hanging by a moment here with you. I'm living for the only thing I know. I'm running and not quite sure where to go. And I don't know what I'm diving into. Just hanging from a moment here with you. There's nothing else to loose, there's nothing else to find. There's nothing in the world that could change my mind. There is nothing else. There is nothing else.

That's how I feel about the Lord right now and I am so excited to be on the mountain top again! I'm falling more in love with Jesus. There's nothing else to find. There's nothing better. I can't get over the generosity of my savior. How he gives so abundantly. How He loves so deeply. I can't get over how He hears and answers and BLESSES us sinners like we were saints. Oh, how I love Jesus!

I can't post without mentioning our biggest blessing: our healthy, smart, strong, compassionate, loving son Aaron. He is amazing. He can take 8 steps (but who's counting right?), say "Baby" and "og" which means dog to him. He waves at people while we are out and about now (finally deciding he enjoys being social) and when we talk to someone (even a perfect stranger) after a minute or so he will reach out for them to hold him. He is such a sweet boy.

I am being led by the Lord to be more of a Godly wife and I am really excited to rise to the challenge! I can't wait to learn to be more submissive and respectful! I am so embarrassed when I speak to my husband with disrespect: that is not who I desire to be! I realize that one of my goals in life is to make my husband happy. It sounds very 1920's or so, but I mean how did I miss that? When did I decide that it was necessary to earn respect from your wife? I didn't earn my salvation. I don't earn Joey's love... why should he have to earn respect. No. He deserves my respect because I am a women after God's own heart and, therefore, I will respect the man that he prepared for me.

Thank you God for family: for the Jesse Tree book and how it is bringing us closer together as a family unit. Thank you Jesus for revelations and growth! Thank you for humility and accountability. Thank you for our son, and most of all thank you for YOUR son.

9 Months and counting...

It's been a long time since I have blogged! Lets see, what's new in the Myer household? Aaron is a mover and a shaker (I'll elaborate more later), Joey is becoming more and more amazing, and I am getting more passionate about the Lord than ever (praise God!). It seemed like forever that my hormones were all over the place and I couldn't get it together. It was so frustrating to realize that I wasn't myself and not be able to do anything about it. In past blog entries I have talked about the depression and other issues, and how they were improving. And they were, but they continue to get better and better.
We recently traveled to the beach for two nights with the Leightman family and Aaron had great fun braving the waves. He isn't afraid of anything! He also enjoyed trying to eat as much sand as he could grab before Daddy pulled it all away. He is so stinking cute it's nuts!

Papa Steve and Roxanne come to visit a little while ago. Papa Steve got a Gator Tattoo! So Aaron tried to match him.

For Aaron's first Halloween (which we do not celebrate for in it's entirety, but as a time of family, and dress-up fun!) we went to the Family Harvest Jam at our church, First Assembly of God. It was a lot of fun! We had our picture taken in the western style photo scene (hasn't been sent out yet though) and ate lots of yummy (free) food! We were dressed as a family of farmers for the occasion. Nana Faith and Papa John came by for a visit last weekend and got to see how much Aaron has grown! They will be back to celebrate Thanksgiving with us as well, and Titi Stasi will be staying here too (can't wait!). We are all missing Tio Carlos like crazy and are excited for him to come back HOME!!! MeeMee Shirley is coming to visit in early December and we are all eager to then head to Poppy Warren's for Aaron's first Christmas!

My little man is over 9 months old now! He enjoys cruising around (holding on to things and walking along them), crawling at super speed to get into whatever he can manage before you pull him back, snuggling, solid foods (finally!), and of course nursing! He is still mama's little guy and is definitely a comfort nurser (was still 7 times a day, although we are moving down to 4-only morning and at sleep times- now that he will eat 2 whole containers of solids at all 3 meals). He will hold on to an object and take a step to reach a different object- nose diving toward it and holding then on in a brave attempt to walk. I think it will be any day now that he takes that first real step on his own! It's bitter sweet though, he is growing so fast! I am amazed at the little person that God gave to Joey and I. He is such a blessing. Such a sweet and compassionate little boy. He is going to do great things for the Kingdom of God.

We have also begun the task of "training up [our] child in the way that he should go" (proverbs 22:6). Aaron is learning what the word "no" means, and how to obey on the very first time. We are attending a parenting conference next Friday-Saturday in Palm Coast Florida. I am so excited to learn more and to become confident and united in our parenting techniques and ideals. It's exciting to think that we are really parents. We are really responsible for helping Aaron to meet Jesus and to grow to become the man he was created to be. It warms my heart to imagine who he will become in Christ.
Our small group is going well. I feel so connected to the people in it and it feels like a family. We are all SO different! You would never think our eclectic group would mesh so well. But because we all strive toward the same goal, we are like a family nonetheless.
With the exception of some minor colds, we are all healthy and well. Life is good. God is great and I'm glad I finally had a chance to post! Blessings to you all!

My husband is the best: Top 3 Reasons

I have one of those husbands. The ones other women describe when they list what they are looking for, or wish they saw in their significant other. He is one of those husbands.

1.) He wakes up at the crack of dawn to make sure he gets to spend time with Jesus, and that it wont interfere with spending time with his family. I'm talking the guy is up at like 5:30AM to get in a 2 hour time in prayer, reading and meditation.

2.) He loves our baby. He often talks about how much he misses/enjoys/adores/loves our boy. That's just something you can't force. He was one of the few dads who was in love with his boy right from birth. I have heard many people talk about how it took their hubby a while to fall for Jr. but I am telling you we would playfully joust for a turn to hold him even in the hospital and stayed awake just staring at him even after the 35 hour day of labor.

3.) He loves me :0) God help him the boy LOVES me. I don't know how you can love someone who drives you NUTS and makes you think you could always do better than what you're doing (not my intention). Someone who you never know what to expect out of. Someone who rarely lets ANYTHING slide. Someone who jumps in and out of little bouts with depression, anxiety, and down right uglyness. But, again, God help him, he loves me. I am so thankful to know that though we may have things to work on, I never have to fear that my husband will stop trying, or walk out the door and never look back.

I am so thankful for you Joseph Hyson Myer. You are a man of God and I love you!

Can't Keep Up!

So many things are changing. It's hard to keep up with it all! Aaron is crawling (see video at the very end), standing (as you can see)

This is how I found out)...

Up...

Up...

Up...

There!

climbing, attacking! He's like a different child now. His personality is really beginning to come out. He is such a sweet boy. He definitely lets us know when he does not like something. He has a growling squeak of an argument (if you can imagine that?) when he has decided that this is NOT something he approves of. Examples of such things include but are not limited to: changing diapers, changing outfits, leaving him in the play yard for over 10 minutes alone, green foods (sometimes), and neglecting to pay attention to him if too long has passed. He is quite a character! He LOVES his doggie, Dakota.

He has also experienced his first (of many I'm sure) trip to the park swings! He LOVED!

He also loved the blanket that was meant to keep him from germs, and became a chew toy... too much time observing his pal Dakota I think.

On a very different note, I am feeling more and more like myself again (insert sigh of relief). There are bad days still, but there are good days now too... and they're getting more frequent! Also, Joey and I have discovered that we can come to expect a rough bedtime or nap time whenever Aaron is experiencing a big developmental milestone. I read it in a book (The Wonder Weeks) and it's really proving to be true. It doesn't always seem so, but it helps in some way to understand why and when things will not be as smooth.

Well, that's all for now. This happy little guy is sure keeping us on our toes! We are in the process of implementing bi-weekly date night (set in STONE). Stay tuned!

Breathing In...

There is a song from Downhere called Breathing In. I tried to post it, but alas I am just not the tech savvy! I my mind relates to the lyrics of songs a lot.

The song goes:

"As I wander the streets of gold
Talk to all the friends I've known
We'll go adore the Master King,
Then only then I'll be breathing in."

and later:
"Only peace, no disease, no more rain, no more pain,
No more tears, no more fear,
Breathing in."

I agree. Then, only then, I'll be breathing in. But right now I feel like I am at least taking a breath. I don't know if my hormones are leveling out or if the Lord is healing me, but I finally feel myself coming back. I am able to stop my mind from exploring to far into the "what if" relhem. I am able to abide in the moment again.

Don't get me wrong I still have a way to go to get back to where I was, I can feel that much. But I see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel. I know it sounds crazy, but I really was not sure I would ever come back. I know that having a child changes your life, but I thought that meant for the better.

Aaron is not at fault here. He is a miracle: the perfect child for Joey and I. But somewhere in the process of becoming a mother, I lost the ability to be a wife, friend, daughter, sister, self... I lost me. I became this crazy person that I didn't like. I've seen her before, this nut job, but again, I am NOT a fan. She worries about what everyone thinks, and worries about every conceivable (and inconceivable) possibility. She doesn't like herself and is VERY hard to live with. She's super emotional, angry, and judgmental. She is not someone I want to be.

I read books, I scoured the internet, I thought, I tried, I strived, I prayed (not enough), I tried medication... nothing worked. I did everything I knew how to do, and that was not easy since I really just wanted to lay in bed every day. I had so much guilt! If I left Aaron alone for a second, even to go the bathroom, I felt like a bad mom. I was so distracted with trying to be good at everything that I stopped really enjoying it. From the moment he entered the world I tried so hard to live in the moment and enjoy him, that even THAT became a source of guilt when I wasn't doing it "right". Man! What a mess I am.

I am letting my son cry to sleep again this week. I gave up on it between Boston and the desire to keep my little man little and sweet and untainted by tears of "abandonment" (so I told myself). I am that mom I said I would never be. Not because of the strategy I am using, but because I have been so INCONSISTENT. That is the one thing I hate in terms of parenting: inconsistency. I know as an early childhood professional, that almost ANYTHING will work with children if you just keep it up!

I tried SO hard to find something that meant he wouldn't have to cry, but I just couldn't get anything to really work. I am just WAY too tired. And you know what? Now that I can breathe I realize that I am okay with that (on some level). I know that my child is going to be fine by the grace of God. He knows that I love him, and I do LOVE him. He knows that he is safe. He is going to be just fine. I'm not going to feel guilty and I am glad I didn't get pressured into doing this when I was not ready to. But now, Joey and I are ready. Sleep is goooooood!

I am really enjoy the relationships that I have here in this world, but this place is not my home. No matter how clean my house, no matter how on top of the chores I am, no matter how much money we make, or how great our parenting, none of it is going to matter. So I am going to focus on what matters. Peace. Love. Jesus.

Lord help me to breathe.

Beautiful Memories

A few little beautiful memories of my life right now: Seen to the left is my lovely Sunday Pot Luck Dinner Group out bowling on a couples date night.

To the right you will find the two most handsome guys I know. I LOVE this picture. Daddy-Baby love is so sweet!

This is my little munchkins' new (but rare) sleep position... unfortunately I didn't know I still had the wrapping over my phone camera!

Much more clearly shown here you can see his more typical position of rest! I LOVE these random memories and thought I should share them with the blog world. More to come!

Milestones Thus Far

I want to make sure I can print my blog this year and have an account of all that our little man has accomplished and when.

He cut his first teeth, the bottom front, the left one on the day after Ari Leightman was born (July 27th) and the next day the right. We noticed the first tooth when Mr. Bill discovered a sharp spot when Aaron thrust Bill's finger into his mouth, Ouch! You can see them here in this picture with his good friend Cori Belle!

Aaron can sit up for long periods of time unassisted thanks to some words of advice from Julie, Danielle and Emily about helping him to practice. It only took about a week for him to get really steady (though he does need help getting up into the sitting position first). So he was about 5-5.5 months when he mastered that skill for the baby book sake. He also loves his Sophie Giraffe squeak toy!

On 7/20 Aaron ate melon for the first time, his first little taste of solid.

At his 6 month checkup yesterday he was 17.4 pounds (50th percentile for weight as usually) and 28.5 inches long (95th percentile for height! Maybe he will be taller than Daddy?). He screamed so loudly when he got his shots, even the nurse commented on his volume. He was only comforted by nursing and seeing those tears was so sad for Mama! He surely does not suffer in silence, he will let you know when something hurts him, which is actually a comfort to me: no guess work.

The past two nights Aaron has slept from 9:30pm through 8am with no waking in between at all. WONDERFUL!

Today he had his first fever 100.3 but being that he had shots yesterday, no one is too concerned. I know I am all over the place, but one of these days I have to break out the baby book and get this all down!

My in-laws are in town for the night. We went out to dinner at Red Lobster (one of my FAVORITE places) and then went to Home Depot (another FAVORITE) to pick up some bamboo fencing to add to our back chain link fence to keep Dakota from jumping it and neighbors from scoffing at us any longer. This is his sleepy-morning-face with Grandma Faith:

There is such a never ending to do list, I wonder if I will ever adapt to this Mommy-hood-stay-at-home life. My in-laws like to say that I am "retired" now... I would not call this retirement, more like slave labor with no union! Tonight as I folded laundry at 10pm I realized, "My job will never end will it? I still have not "clocked out" since 7am..." last I checked you can't treat employees that way! But you know what? Weather anyone acknowledges the work I am doing, I can truly say that I am working harder now than I ever have, and am also beginning to enjoy it more than any else I have done as well. I know I will not miss Aaron's first steps or anything else and in the end, those are the memories I will value more than the money I would make at a job right now.